Love Never Fails
|A NOTE FROM DR. RICK
Love Never Fails
We have a world full of hurting people who need love. I am one. So are you. To some degree, we have all been hurt. Maybe it is by our parents, or uncaring institutions, or painful relationships, or an isolating and alienating society, but we have all been hurt.
Love is the most powerful of all emotions. It’s a force stronger than hate, anger, and fear combined. Love gives us courage and might. It gives us patience and compassion. It allows us to forgive and let go. Love eases our worries and frustrations. It fills us with joy, hope and laughter. Love is our greatest asset, our biggest strength, and our highest calling. And yet, at times it can feel like our biggest liability.
“And when Jesus went out He saw a great multitude; and He was moved with compassion for them, and healed their sick.” Matthew 14:14
Jesus showed a love for hurting people: “and He was moved with compassion for them.”
The Greek word used here for that loving compassion means literally “to have the inward parts moved with great feeling.” The deepest part of Jesus’ emotional capacity was, and still is, turned in sincere feeling for the hurting of our world—you and me included. I Corinthians 13 is recognized as the love chapter in the Bible. Yet, very few of us can even comprehend what that would look like let alone experience.
When love is lost we feel out of control, frustrated, angry, lonely, sad, and helpless. We may struggle to cope with our loss, and as a result become disconnected from ourselves and others. This disconnect floods us with despair, and a sense of agony so deep it can bring us to our knees. Joy seems unattainable, or is forgotten altogether. We may lack motivation or basic care for things we once enjoyed, or even the things needed to maintain our own livelihood. We feel this loss so intensely that it can be all consuming.
A lack of love also causes us to be disconnected; not only from ourselves, but from those around us as well. It is possible that we were at one time showered with love and affection, and now are not so much. Some of us may have yet to be loved adequately—or even at all. Either way, we feel the absence of love just the same. As a means to cope, we may decide that we don’t need love, that it’s ridiculous, over-rated, or even sickening. But still, we feel the loss. It’s deep and unrelenting. It’s powerful.
Love is a fundamental human need. We are always looking for it—even if we don’t realize it. If we don’t have it, we may hurt ourselves or even others in pursuit of it. Without it, we may become cold-hearted, bitter, or reclusive. Alternatively, we may engage in “quick fixes” such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, or other addictive behaviors in order to alleviate our suffering. Love has now given way to fear and isolation. And with fear as our driving force, we become depressed and anxious, experience insomnia and changes in appetite; physical symptoms such as headaches, nausea, and fatigue.
With love as our driving force, our view of life changes. Traits like kindness, empathy, compassion, and generosity become a bi-product that becomes second nature. Establishing and maintaining healthy, loving relationships becomes easier because we can see the benefits. We become more motivated and even encouraged to love more boldly. We tend to feel better, look better, because we are better at loving.
Love is life’s most powerful medicine. It can create miracles in the lives of the people we care about; it can even defeat fears that paralyze us. The power of love is what we all long to have—we need only to desire it and learn to trust it.
1. Greet your loved ones with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
2. Really listen to what your loved ones are saying; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.
3. Support each other through tough times.
4. Do simple (even random) acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath.
5. Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
6. Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults.
7. Come home on time. Sober.
8. Be impeccable with your word. If you say you’ll do something, do it, and by the time you said you’d do it.
9. Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
Here are services we provide:
THE COMPASS CONSULTING TEAM
Dr. Rick Petronella, PhD
Bethany Kinzel — MA, LPC, NCC
Charity L Simpson, MS, LAPC, NCC, MDiv
Bob Roland Th.M.
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